But I was parading my offenses to my mother one day, having this great revelation of how wronged I was and I was in the right which I was. I mean, I knew I was. I mean, flat out, end of scenario. I was right, which is the way we all feel, of course. But she called me back in about 15 minutes. She said, “I’ve had a word from the Lord on this.” And she wrote it on the inside of a panty hose container. I thought, “Oh, come on, mom, this is going to be good.” And she said, “No, I got a word from God.”
So I thought, “This is going to be one of those ‘my child how right you are’ words.” She said the Lord told her to tell me, “You have every reason to be offended, but according to God’s Word, you have no right.” And we can come up with some really good reasons.
J: Yes, you can be a hundred percent right and be wrong.
LR: But we have no right to hold the offenses.
RR: John, I’ve had to learn how to forgive people who have hurt me. And in cases, I’ve had to go to them, the Lord has sent me to them to tell me to ask them to forgive me because I’ve been holding something against them for what they have done to me.
LR: And it’s a seed.
RR: God has released me in other areas of my life when I’ve done that. It hasn’t been easy. I remember one man who had said some terrible things about me on television. This was maybe ten, fifteen years ago things that weren’t true. And I was deeply hurt and offended, and then I was bitter at him. And the Lord spoke to me and said, “Go to him and ask him for forgiveness.” And I said, “Why? I’ve done nothing.” He said, “You go ask first.” So I did. I asked him to forgive me for holding it against him. And there was a healing. He said, “Well, I found out what I said wasn’t true and I’m sorry.” And there was a healing between us. But it happened because I went to him. He was the one in the wrong, not me, yet God sent me to him to ask him to forgive me.
J: That’s amazing because that’s exactly what happened to me in the two deepest things that happened to me. God told me to go to both men both times and apologize for being critical and judgmental of them. And when I did, it opened it up and we came together. We reconciled together, one of whom, you know, the man continued in his ways. The other one, we are still like this today, and that was the deepest one.




